21 weeks 5 days. It’s awesome. It’s tiring. It’s sleepless nights and sleeping in. It’s been great. It is great. We’re still working out his sleep schedule. I haven’t quite figure out his nap times yet. Or his meal times. The nurses had us trained with Logan’s feeding schedule before we left the hospital. We followed it to a tee for couple months. When his pediatrician told us he’s ready to sleep through the night, I threw out his feeding schedule and let Logan take lead. I let him tell me when he’s hungry and when he’s tired.
That being said, it means we don’t quite have a routine yet. I have to be completely flexible with my days with him. Let me tell you though – when KT first went back to work, I was completely gung-ho about waking up at 6AM, doing yoga, eating breakfast, and working couple hours before Logan wakes up. I swore Logan was going to have a 10-10 sleep schedule. I was so wrong.
We tried sleep training. I don’t mind him crying for a bit if it gets him to sleep on his own and through the night. But after three nights of it, I noticed his demeanor changed. He didn’t wake up refreshed and happy. He woke up untrusting and reclusive. His delightful demeanor changed. He was silent. He stopped his baby babbles. Sleep training did not work for us. Instead, it broke our baby. Now I just go with the flow.
I sleep until Logan won’t sleep anymore. Normally anytime between 9AM and 11AM. Then we hang out. Either in bed if he’s content with just lying down, or we head out to the backyard with Monster and Sugar to water the plants and pick some blueberries. Or we watch some tv and I feed him. Whatever keeps him a happy baby. I hear people joke “happy wife, happy life.” For me, it’s “happy baby, happy mommy.”
In order to stay productive with Logan calling the shots, I make a mental lists of things to do with him. I have four categories: w/Logan awake, w/Logan asleep, w/Logan asleep on me, and w/fussy Logan.
Under the category w/Logan awake, I have a list of things I can do with him either strapped on me, or hanging out within eyesight. These are things I can start and stop doing in an instant. These are things that doesn’t require much attention.
- Water plants
- Wash dishes
- Sweep floor
- Fold laundry
- Pick fruits in the backyard
Under the category w/Logan asleep, I have a list of things that require a lot more attention, focus, and details.
- Work (the stuff that pays me money)
- Pay bills
Under the category w/Logan asleep on me, I have a list of things I can do on the phone or iPad for when Logan won’t sleep unless he’s in my arms.
- Research (new printer, new car, vacation ideas, etc.)
- Brainstorm new projects
- Catch up on news and blogs
Under the category w/fussy Logan, I usually just have a list of errands I need to run.
I don’t think I’ve ever been this flexible in my life. In a way, this is my way to have some structure in my unstructured days. Whatever works.